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Advice Guru Liz Pryor: Ending a Dead-End Relationship

Jupiterimages/Thinkstock(NEW YORK) -- You're dating someone, you're having doubts, that lovin' feeling has worn off and you feel stuck in the relationship.

The relationship is familiar and easy, and you don't like change. You feel torn and confused, but the signs are all there.

Here's the truth: getting out of a long-term or even in intense, short-term relationship is never fun.

That said, whether we like it or not, knowing that the love has faded and hesitating to address it only avoids the inevitable.

The waiting and pondering we do when a relationship has stalled is simply stall time.

If we're aware of the stall time but decide we need it, we can accept it and pick a date for ending the relationship.

If we're unaware, and we need a slap of reality, take this opportunity to consider the importance of moving on in your life.

Bite the bullet. Get out of your head, and end the relationship, so that you can begin to move forward and find what it is you need to feel complete and fill your heart.

But how do you know if ending the relationship is the right thing to do?

Take a day to go somewhere and be by yourself. Go over everything in your mind. Take yourself from the beginning when there was greatness, all the way to where it has landed.

If there is one thing that never lies, it is our intuition. Questioning your intuition is like playing with fire. Don't do it. Listen to it, and make your move.

The unfortunate news is that there is no easy out of a relationship.

The burden of leaving a relationship is entirely on us. We can reach out and look around and ponder and discuss, but in the end, we have to belly up, say the words and live through the process.

It's seldom easy, but finding what makes us the most happy in life is not known to be easy.

Moving on is simple. What it leaves behind is what is difficult.

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