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Monday
Mar112013

Stars Open Up About Postpartum Depression

VALERIE MACON/AFP/Getty Images(NEW YORK) -- Vanessa Lachey welcomed a baby boy, Camden, with husband Nick Lachey last September, and now the TV personality admits that she dealt with postpartum depression after his birth.

In a new blog entry on her website, Lachey said the pressure to be the perfect mother caused a downward spiral.  During week two of caring for baby Camden, Vanessa said she became "undone."

"At this point, I was sick of feeling like a milk machine," the 32-year-old wrote.  "I loved my bonding time with Camden. ... But also there were times when he was crying of hunger. ... Then when Camden was done eating, I wasn't able to lay and cuddle with him."

"I had to give him back to all the well-wishers who wanted to hold him and love him, and I sat and waited for the next feeding, where I would do it all again," she added.

Vanessa said that despite her husband Nick's support, she felt alone.

"I started crying.  I was feeding Camden and crying my eyes out.  I felt like I had officially come undone," Vanessa wrote.

After handing off the baby to her husband, Vanessa took a ride around the block, stopped by Starbucks and finally came home to shower and gather herself.  Then, she apologized to Nick.

"I was sorry for the weeks of losing myself.  I was sorry for the weeks to come when I won't be myself, and I am sorry I can't do it all like I thought I could," she wrote.

But she isn't the first Hollywood mom to open up about postpartum depression.

Brooke Shields

Brooke Shields is perhaps the most outspoken celebrity on postpartum.  In 2007, she opened up to ABC News about her depression after giving birth to her first daughter in 2003.

"We are taught that being a mother and becoming a mother is the most glorious thing you could ever do.  It's the most natural thing," she said.  "If you don't do this beautifully, then you are wrong.  You know, you're not a good mother.  You're not a good woman."

In order to shed light on the illness and her struggle, Shields, 47, wrote a book titled, Down Came the Rain: My Journey Through Postpartum Depression.

Gwyneth Paltrow

Gwyneth Paltrow opened up about her postpartum depression in one of her weekly GOOP newsletters on her website that she created to "share all of life's positives."

"When my son, Moses, came into the world in 2006, I expected to have another period of euphoria following his birth, much the way I had when my daughter was born two years earlier," the now-40-year-old wrote on her website.  "Instead, I was confronted with one of the darkest and most painfully debilitating chapters of my life.  For about five months, I had what I can see in hindsight as postnatal depression, and since that time, I have wanted to know more about it.  Not only from a hormonal and scientific standpoint, and why so many of us experience it, but from the perspective of other women who have gone through it."

Bryce Dallas Howard

The Help star Bryce Dallas Howard saw Paltrow as an example and shared her story about suffering from postpartum depression.  The 32-year-old actress wrote on Paltrow's site that she "treasured every moment I had with this new life growing inside me," even in the last month of her pregnancy when she tipped "the scale at over 200 pounds."  Then, when Howard gave birth, she said, she "felt nothing."  But through the experience, she learned "never be afraid to ask for help."

Alanis Morissette

Alanis Morissette said last August that she's always there for her son, Ever, whenever he needs her.  But she revealed she suffered "baby blues," an intense struggle with postpartum depression after he was born.

When ABC's Good Morning America's Lara Spencer asked Morissette why she felt the need to share about this, she said, "I didn't feel the need the share.  It just was part of the autobiographical transparency value that I have.  I really think transparency really levels the playing field for all of us and renders our humanness OK.  It was just a really intense time and, if I could share anything with anyone who's going through it, it would be to encourage them to seek help and reach out a little earlier than I did."

Courteney Cox

Actress Courteney Cox revealed that she suffered from postpartum depression after giving birth to daughter Coco in 2004.  Cox, 48, told USA Today that she did not see immediate effects from the depression.

"I went through a really hard time -- not right after the baby, but when [Coco] turned 6 months, I couldn't sleep," she said.  "My heart was racing.  And I got really depressed.  I went to the doctor and found out my hormones had been pummeled."

Carnie Wilson

Singer and The Newlywed Game host Carnie Wilson gave birth to a baby girl, Lola Sofia, in 2005, but after she gave birth, she told People magazine, "I cried all day over everything."  For Wilson, 44, postpartum gave her the feeling of fear.

"You're so afraid you're going to fail this baby," she said.  "What if you drop her or hurt her?  She's totally dependent on you and it's scary."

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Friday
Mar082013

Vanessa Lachey Struggled with ‘Baby Blues’

Steve Granitz/WireImage(LOS ANGELES) -- New mom Vanessa Lachey couldn’t wait to hold her newborn boy in her arms after giving birth, but says her feelings of pure joy and happiness morphed into debilitating “baby blues.”

Lachey, the host of ABC’s Wipeout and wife to singer Nick Lachey, revealed her overwhelming feeling she calls “baby blues” set in two weeks after giving birth in September to son, Camden John.

“I noticed a swing in my emotions. At this point I was sick of feeling like a milk machine,” she wrote in a blog on her website. “I felt lost, unloved, alone and at my wits end. It’s weird, too, because I have an amazing and supportive husband, his loving family and wonderful friends. But at that moment… I felt like NO ONE understood me.”

Though Lachey says she feels guilty raising the issue when she feels blessed to have a healthy child, Lachey wrote that there was no other way besides “baby blues” to describe what she felt as her world came crashing down.

“I was feeding Camden and crying my eyes out. I felt like I had officially come undone,” she wrote. “I imagined blissful days, tired nights, but quiet loving moments. I imagined family dinners with the 12 casseroles I prepared ahead of time, and a beautiful post-pregnancy glow that embodied me 24-7. But this was none of that.”

Lachey said she felt like the “super woman” she thought she could be was no more as fears of not being a good mother overtook her.

“I think it’s just fear…The fear of not knowing what I’m doing. The fear of ‘messing up’ this little boy. The fear of being responsible for a human being and not knowing any ‘life’ experiences to compare moments with him to. No matter how many books you read, NOTHING prepares you better than the real thing,” she wrote.

Lachey explains in the blog that she left the baby with husband, Nick Lachey, and took a drive to collect herself: “I … put my sunroof down and blared the radio. …I went to Starbucks, came home, took a shower, put myself together and came upstairs to give my husband a kiss and tell him I was sorry…I was sorry for the weeks of losing myself.”

Lachey is not the first celebrity mom to open up about falling victim to post-partum “baby blues.” Alanis Morrissette revealed she struggled with intense post-partum “baby blues,” after having her son, Ever.

“It was just a really intense time,” Morissette said in the Aug. 2012 interview.  “If I could share anything with anyone who’s going through it, it would be to encourage them to seek help and reach out a little earlier than I did.”

Senior Medical Contributor Dr. Jennifer Ashton said Friday on GMA that baby blues and postpartum depression lie on a spectrum and both are extremely common.

“If you’re saying to yourself, ‘Something does not feel right,’ there is no shame in this game. Say, ‘Look, I need some help here.’ It does not make you less of a mother,” Ashton said, telling new moms to consult with their OB-GYNs.

Lachey said she decided to open up about her struggle since it’s “a reality for so many more women than I ever knew.” She writes that she hopes other moms realize as she did that there’s a light at the end of tunnel as long as you take time to get back to “you.”

“It’s okay if we can’t do it ALL because…we have already done so much! I needed to remember that hormones have a mind of their own, and I couldn’t allow that to anchor in my thoughts,” she explained.

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