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Princeton Alumna Susan Patton Urges Women to Snag Husband on Campus Before Graduating

ABC News(PRINCETON, N.J.) -- Princeton University alumna Susan Patton, who is a member of the class of 1977, is sharing some wisdom with female students, but not everyone is taking kindly to it.

“Here’s what nobody is telling you: Find a husband on campus before you graduate,” Patton wrote in an open letter to the Daily Princetonian that has since gone viral.

Patton was one of the first women to graduate from the Ivy League school, which her son currently attends, but her open letter has drawn scathing headlines, including one: “Princeton Grad Warns Undergraduates to Find Their Husbands Now, Because the Rest of the World Is Too Dumb.”

“It was just intended to suggest to these women who are on campus today, again, keep an open mind. Look around you. These are the best guys,” Patton said. “If the women’s movement has done what it has supposed to do, it should enable all women to make whatever choices are appropriate for them, even if their choices are seemingly retrogressive.”

In the letter, Patton also says although “men regularly marry women who are younger and less intelligent…ultimately it will frustrate you to be with a man who just isn’t as smart as you.”

The letter was met with mixed reactions by students, some of whom felt Patton did have a point.

“I don’t think her entire point is completely wrong. Girls do want to date guys who are as smart or smarter than them, but in practicality, we are all way too young to be getting married now,” one female student told ABC News.

Although the advice may sound like something mothers told their daughters in past generations, Karin Ruskin, a marriage and family therapist, said Patton may be on to something.

“If you have similar value systems and you both are intellectuals, is it going to increase the chance that you’ll have a successful relationship?” she said. “Of course. That’s a given.”

Copyright 2013 ABC News Radio


Memorial Held for Slain Wisconsin Police Officer

Ingram Publishing/Thinkstock(MILWAUKEE) -- Police officers and others across southeast Wisconsin are paying their respects this Saturday to Officer Jennifer Sebena.

The 30-year-old was found dead of multiple gunshots earlier this week as she patrolled the streets of Wauwatosa, a suburb of Milwaukee.

Sebena's husband has been charged with her death.

Associate Pastor Steve Sonderman eulogized Sebena as one whose life dream was to become a police officer and said, “Her life was about protection, service, sacrifice and investing in others.”

Copyright 2012 ABC News Radio


Husband Arrested in Murder of Iraqi-American Mom, Family Called It a Hate Crime

Photodisc/Digital Vision/Thinkstock(EL CAJON, Calif.) -- The husband of an Iraqi-American mother whose family called her death a hate crime was charged with homicide Friday, nearly eight months after his wife's murder.

Police arrested Kassim Alhimidi, 48, of El Cajon, Calif., Thursday for the murder of his 32-year-old wife, Shaima Alawadi, according to ABC News affiliate KGO.

Alawadi's family called her death a hate crime after she was found beaten in her living room with a note calling her "a terrorist." The murder sent shockwaves through El Cajon, which is home to one of the nation's largest concentrations of Iraqi immigrants.

Alawadi was found by her 17-year-old daughter, who said she and her mother were the only ones home on the morning of March 21, when she heard her mother squeal and the sound of glass breaking. She said she found her mother bloodied, with the note nearby, which also told the family "to go home."

Police said at the time that Alhimidi, the woman's husband, claimed to have been out of the house, taking the couple's younger children to school when the murder occurred.

Fatima Alhimidi, the 17-year-old who found Alawadi, told news reporters the crime must have been motivated by hatred. She said the family had received a similar note a week earlier in which they were told to go home to their own country but had dismissed it as a prank.

El Cajon police, however, said early on that although the possibility of a hate crime had been suggested to them, they believed it was an isolated incident and the area's Iraqi-American population should not fear similar crimes directed at it.

Alhimidi is now charged with first-degree murder for Alawadi's death, according to KGO.

Search warrants viewed by KGO revealed that divorce papers had been found in Alawadi's car but had not been filled out.

Kassim Alhimidi is scheduled to be arraigned Nov. 13.

Copyright 2012 ABC News Radio


Annoyed Wife Turns In Husband to Police for ‘Getting on My Nerves’

Courtesy La Crosse County Sheriff's Department(LA CROSSE, Wis.) -- A woman who turned in her husband to Wisconsin police on an outstanding warrant said she did it because he was getting on her nerves.

Adrienne Bolds, 55, told ABC News Wednesday night that her husband’s friends called her around 1:30 a.m. Monday to ask her to pick him up from their house.  When she arrived, she said she found her husband drunk and belligerent.  She had to be at work at 5 a.m.

“I’ve always just went and got him and just ignored him,” she said, speaking of similar calls she’s had in the past to pick up her husband, Johnnie Bolds.

This time things were a little different.  She picked him up, drove him to the La Crosse Police Department and turned him in, even though she knew he would likely be held on the warrant.

“He was getting on my nerves really bad.  I was already nervous and shaky about going over there” to pick him up, she said, adding that it was safer for him to be off the street and she wanted him to get help.

Her husband was held on a warrant from a felony drunken driving conviction, the La Crosse Tribune reported.  County jail records online indicated no bond was set.

Adrienne Bolds added that her husband’s situation was taking its toll on her.

“It’s the kind of relationship, no matter how many times I pick him up, he keeps falling down,” she said.  “And all I’m doing is I keep picking him up, but he just can’t see to stand up on his own.”

The Bolds have been married since 1995.  They don’t have children together, but they and their children from other relationships are a close-knit family, she said.

Bolds said her husband wasn’t a bad person, but that he had serious medical problems and had trouble finding a job because of that.

Despite their trouble, she said, they get along well.

“We love each other,” she said, adding that even though their relationship isn’t like it used to be, “he’s still my husband and I’m still his wife, and so I’ll go and get him.”

Johnnie Bolds wasn’t angry when she heard from him on Wednesday evening, she said.

“He called me about an hour or so ago …  asked me when I was coming to see him,” she said, adding that she would definitely visit him in jail.

Copyright 2012 ABC News Radio


California Woman Challenges Order to Pay Alimony to Attacker

Courtesy Crystal Harris(SACRAMENTO, Calif.) -- A woman who was sexually assaulted by her husband and then ordered by the court to pay alimony and legal fees to her ex once he is released from prison, may get relief from California lawmakers.

Crystal Harris, 39, told the judicial committee of the Calif. State Assembly Wednesday that the judgment, which was handed down in 2010, "amounted to making a rape victim write a check to her own rapist every month."

She described to lawmakers how her husband would choke her and sexually assault her while the couple's two children were upstairs.  One of the attacks was caught on tape.

"It is extremely traumatizing to have to go through that process.  If I could only describe what my life was like when I was living it," Harris told ABC News.  "Once it happened to me I couldn't let it stand."

After Harris' story was brought to the attention of Assemblywoman Toni Atkins by the San Diego County district attorney, the lawmaker was compelled to introduce a bill that would keep any victim of violent sexual crime perpetrated by a spouse from eventually having to pay alimony to the abusive former spouse.

"Most logical people hear this and think you've got to be kidding," Atkins said of Harris' case.  "That seems to make a mockery behind the intent of laws that govern a fair division of assets."

The seven person bipartisan judiciary committee passed the bill with just one dissenting vote.  The bill will now head to the Assembly floor for discussion.  If passed, it will be forwarded to the state senate.

Shawn Harris, 40, was convicted of forced oral copulation and will be released from Donovan State Prison in 2014.  The other two charges he faced -- spousal rape by force and sodomy -- resulted in a hung jury.

Crystal Harris, who earns between $110,000 and $120,000 a year as a financial analyst, said she had been supporting her husband, who worked as a car salesman, ever since their first son was born in 2002.

Under normal circumstances, Crystal Harris would have been required to pay $3,000 a month in spousal support after the divorce, but because of the domestic violence she endured, the judge said he would lower that amount to $1,000.

She was also ordered to pay her now ex-husband's $47,000 legal bill. Even if the new law passes in the legislature, Harris will still be on the hook for her husband's legal fees.

She tried appealing the judge's ruling last year, pointing out that her ex-husband will have no expenses while he's in jail.  The judge agreed, but pointed out that California law entitles Shawn Harris to alimony.

California family code currently states "the criminal conviction of an abusive spouse shall be considered in making a reduction or elimination of a spousal support award" and it's that language that gives the judge discretion when making a spousal support ruling.

Copyright 2012 ABC News Radio


Wife Blogs ‘What a Guy!’ As She Plots to Kill Husband, Say Cops 

AbleStock/Thinkstock(HOUSTON) -- The wife of a Houston firefighter was blogging about their plans to renew their vows and gushing “What a guy!” about her husband while also making arrangements for a hit man to kill him, according to court documents and her personal blog.

Brittany Rachelle Martinez, 24, was sad and scared to death as she appeared before a judge Thursday morning on charges of solicitation of capital murder, her lawyers claimed, according to ABC News affiliate KTRK.

“It’s a bizarre scenario, and we are going to delve into it and talk to as many witnesses as we possibly can,” defense attorney George Parnham told KTRK.

Martinez, an EMT and the mother of two children, was arrested Tuesday and is being held at the Harris County Jail without bail.

Prosecutors said Thursday in court that Martinez tried to arrange the murder plot of her husband, Adrian Martinez. According to court records, Martinez provided a friend with $1,000, along a picture of her husband and a copy of his work schedule, to hire a hit man.

Martinez approached a friend, the manager of a north Houston restaurant call Casa Ole, on Jan. 17 about her marital problems and admitted she wanted him killed, court papers state.

She gave the manager a $500 down payment on Feb. 4 and promised another $1000 to $2,000 after her husband was dead, according to court papers. Martinez said she did not want to have contact with or meet the hit man, the papers state.

On Feb. 21, Brittany Martinez posted lovingly to her blog, Crew de Martinez, about the couple's upcoming wedding anniversary.

“In the overall plan of the year, Adrian and I will be celebrating our 5th anniversary this coming October, for which we will be throwing a formal party/vow renewal,” the blog states. “We will be able to have the wedding we didn’t get to have and say our vows again, this time truly understanding what those words mean. I have picked out the dress, we decided on the venue and the rest is a simple case of creativity and saving. Eeek, I’m so excited! J”

Martinez’s post goes on to comment about the couple’s life in their new home, and updates the progress her two children have made in the past months.

She boasted on her blog about her husband’s career, pointing out that he is a certified firefighter and nationally registered paramedic.

“He also works part-time as a paramedic for the Cy-Fair VFD on their massive ambulances. What a guy!” she posted.

Martinez reached out to her friend again to say she wanted her husband killed as soon as possible, particularly before he noticed she took more money from the bank, the court documents state.

That day, Brittany Martinez dropped off another $500 with her husband’s work schedule, with the dates March 3 and 5 circled. Along with the schedule was a note that indicated her husband’s physical description, vehicle description and the warning, “cameras at the car lot across the street,” court papers allege.

Later that day, the manager recorded a phone conversation he had with Brittany Martinez. According to documents, she was giving detailed instructions on how and when the murder of her husband should occur.

If convicted of the charges, Martinez could face a maximum sentence of life in prison.

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