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Mother-in-Law's Nasty Email Goes Viral; Brits Boycott Her

John Foxx/Stockbyte(LONDON) -- She has been called Momzilla, the British mother-of-the-groom who sent a scathing e-mail to her future daughter-in-law after the bride-to-be committed a few social faux pas during a weekend visit to her country home.

Carolyn Bourne, 60, sent shock waves across the Atlantic after she chastised her son's fiancée, Heidi Withers, for "rude behavior" that apparently included sleeping late, asking for seconds at the dinner table, and bad-mouthing the future in-laws at the local pub.

Bourne teed off on Withers for being what Brits might call "a little madam," demanding the family cater to her needs and exhibiting "uncouthness" and "lack of manners."

She even suggested that Withers consider finishing school to polish up her savoir faire. "It's high time someone explained to you about good manners," Bourne wrote. "Yours are obvious by their absence and I feel sorry for you."

Withers, 29, is a production assistant in London and was so upset that she sent the nasty note to her friends. The story soon went viral and has dominated the British media for days.

Now, an online group is urging people to boycott Bourne's family-owned flower shop, Whetman Pinks Nursery, in the southwestern coastal town of Dawlish in Devon.

"If Mrs. Bourne apologizes, we will remove the boycott," wrote the group, Universally Aware. "We are here to raise the consciousness of all people."

Bourne's e-mail went on to say it was "unfortunate" that her son Freddie, who runs a bicycle shop, had fallen for Withers.

At least one thing crosses the pond loud and clear, according to one expert: Bourne's future relationship with her daughter-in-law is dead.

"What's interesting in this story is that the woman isn't a mother but a step-mother to the affianced young man and it certainly sounds as though what's at stake is territory -- the future mother-in-law isn't about to cede a inch to the young woman of whom she's profoundly jealous," said Peg Streep, author of Mean Mothers: Overcoming the Legacy of Hurt.

"This dynamic, alas, isn't limited to just stepmothers and fiancees who are perceived as interlopers but even happens between mothers and daughters as well," she said. "The arc of the young woman's life -- the fiance who dotes on her, the grand wedding, the sense of future possibility -- throws what's wrong or what hasn't happened in the older woman's life into high relief and sets off a self-serving rant which would be funny if it weren't meant to be hurtful. It's true enough that the girl should have written a thank-you note but, even if she had, it wouldn't have made a whit of difference," said Streep.

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